[feat] windows improvements

[peakschris]

A set of fixes to improve functionality, reliability and documentation on Windows. Includes moving up to newer versions of dependencies where they include windows fixes. This is a WIP. Putting it up here to increase visibility and collaboration

Working on: #294

Referenced PRs/issues that I'm working on in other repos:

• feat: windows bazel-contrib/rules_multitool#45 (merged)
• feat: windows toolchain for running clang tools bazel-contrib/toolchains_llvm#342
• Error running on windows keith/rules_multirun#56

Other related issues:

• [FR]: Add windows support for CLI versions > 5.5.0 aspect-cli-legacy#95
• Tools don't run under windows bufbuild/rules_buf#78
• Fix running tests in Windows bufbuild/rules_buf#79
• [Bug]: bsdtar.exe fails to run on Windows rules_js#1739
• Publish Windows binaries bsdtar-prebuilt#3
• chore: upgrade bsdtar to 3.7.4 bazel-contrib/bazel-lib#866

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Changes are visible to end-users: yes

• Searched for relevant documentation and updated as needed: yes/no
• Breaking change (forces users to change their own code or config): yes/no
• Suggested release notes appear below: yes/no

Test plan

• Covered by existing test cases
• New test cases added
• Manual testing; please provide instructions so we can reproduce:

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